when childlessness is not a choice

Ann Davidman and I have worked with ambivalence: the not knowing if. What if the choice isn't yours. There are women who know but then find the choice isn't theirs, through infertility, life-circumstance or another event that robs them of the path they thought they would take in life. The pain of this is something that needs to be faced (it takes courage) and it deserves healing. It can cry out to be shared. A grief shared is a grief humanized. And every story matters. Thankfully, there are resources out there. Jody Day's book, Living the Life Unexpected; 12 weeks to your Plan B for a meaningful and fulfilling future without children is an excellent resource, as is GatewayWomen, a support ne