We believe that Motherhood - Is It For Me? is the most comprehensive resource guide for helping you make your decision,

but we can also recommend:

Co-author Ann Davidman's website:



Beth Follini's blog:




Ambivalence and Choosing

The Baby Decision: How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life. By Merle Bombardieri.  Orchard View Press, 2016.

Do I Want to Be a Mom? A Woman’s Guide to the Decision of a Lifetime. By Diana Dell & Susan Erem. New York: Contemporary Books, McGrawHill, 2004.

Single Mothers by Choice: A Guidebook for Single Women Who Are Considering or Have Chosen Motherhood. By Jane Mattes. New York: Harmony, 1994.


The Baby Dilemma: How to Confidently Decide Whether or Not to Have a Child and Feel Good about It. By Ann Meredith. San Francisco: Bush Street Press, 2011.


Beyond Motherhood: Choosing a Life without Children. By Jeanne Safer. New York: Gallery, 1996. Print.


Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice. By Laura S. Scott. Berkeley: Seal Press, 2009.

I Want a Baby, He Doesn’t: How Both Partners Can Make the Right Decision at the Right Time. By Donna Wade. Avon, Massachusetts: Adams Media, 2005. 

Motherhood Optional: A Psychological Journey. By Phyllis O. Ziman Tobin. Jason Aronson, 1998. 


Healing and Self-Care


The New Our Bodies, Ourselves: A Health Book for and by Women. By Boston Women’s Health Book Collective. New York: Touchstone, 2011. 

Living the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future without Children. By Jody Day. London: Bluebird, an imprint of Pan Macmillan, 2016. 

You Are Not Alone – Others’ Stories


Choice: True Stories of Birth, Contraception, Infertility, Adoption, Single Parenthood, and Abortion. By Karen E. Bender & Nina de Gramont. San Francisco: MacAdam/Cage, 2007. 


Maybe Baby: 28 Writers Tell the Truth about Skepticism, Infertility, Baby Lust, Childlessness, Ambivalence, and How They Made the Biggest Decision of Their Lives. Edited by Lori Leibovich. New York: Harper Collins Publishers, 2007.