The quiet cost of authentic decisions Have you ever made a decision that left you feeling… apart? Not wrong. Not unsure. Just quietly on the outside. Maybe you’ve chosen a path your family doesn’t understand. Maybe you’ve expressed doubts about motherhood in a group where everyone else seems certain. Maybe your no—spoken clearly, lovingly, and firmly—was met with silence, discomfort, or worse, withdrawal. These moments can be subtle. A missed invitation. A shift in tone. A ne

For as long as many of us can remember, there’s been an assumption: that every little girl dreams of becoming a mother one day. The picture is familiar—tiny hands cradling baby dolls, playing house, or saying “when I grow up, I’ll have kids.” But here’s the truth: not all girls dream of becoming mothers. Some women, even as children, feel a deep certainty that motherhood isn’t their path. Others reach adulthood still waiting for the maternal instinct to “kick in,” only to dis

YES! It's completely normal to feel unsure about whether you want to become a mother. Doubt does not mean something is wrong with you—it...

There comes a moment, sometimes quietly, sometimes as a flood, when a woman realizes that deciding whether or not to have children is not...

This is a repost from Ann Davidman's blog on her website. Just in case you missed it last year. Check out the link to listen to Laura...

NPR's Juana Summers speaks to journalist and author Ruthie Ackerman about her new book, The Mother Code: My Story of Love, Loss, and the...

Welcome to One Better Question , the podcast that promises to make questions your new superpower by talking to the world's most curious...

A thoughtful book on ambivalence came out in June of this year. It was written by Anastasia Berg and Rachel Wiseman. I have learned that...

By Elle Hunt, published in Gentlemen's Quarterly Magazine (U.K.), on May 15, 2024 Click on the link below to read this insightful and...

Guardian article by Elle Hunt (November, 2023) about her own challenges around deciding. Read the full article here:...

Guardian article (November, 2023) by Emma Gannon, sharing the richness and complexities of a life without children. For her and her...

Join in the fun by listening to co-author Ann Davidman in conversation with 3 very thoughtful and funny guys in Australia. Their podcast,...

This excellent in-depth article written by co-author Ann Davidman is a must read. Published in PSYCHE, a charity and online newletter...

News of this thoughtful podcast from Australia came to co-author Ann Davidman. It's 3 men who call themselves THE IMPERFECTS...in this...

Chelsea Conaboy has written about the myths of motherhood and maternal instinct in The Guardian, on October 10, 2022. See the full...

The awaited Spanish version of our popular Motherhood-Is It For Me? book is now available from Amazon and other online retailers, in...

Check out this online piece (in French) from May 19, 2022, that includes wisdom from co-author Ann Davidman: https://www.ladn.eu/nouveaux...

Co-author Ann Davidman was interviewed for this article published June 6th, 2022 in Cosmopolitan-UK. Check it out here:...

Brittany Krystle's recent podcast with co-author Ann Davidman can be accessed here: https://www.brittanykrystle.com/should-i-have-kids-ho...

Co-Author Ann Davidman was interviewed for this article written by Katie O'Malley and published in Elle-UK (31-1-2022). Check it out at:...