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Is It Normal to Have Doubts About Becoming a Mom?

  • Writer: Denise L. Carlini
    Denise L. Carlini
  • Aug 27
  • 2 min read
Tattoo with heart and the word MOM across it.

YES!


It's completely normal to feel unsure about whether you want to become a mother. Doubt does not mean something is wrong with you—it means you’re thoughtfully considering a life-defining decision. You’re not alone, even if it feels like no one else is talking about it.



Doubts About Motherhood?

You’re Not Alone—Even If No One Talks About It


Is it normal to have doubts about motherhood?


Yes. And it’s more common than most people think.

But admitting that uncertainty? That’s another story.

In a culture that still idealizes motherhood as a natural, expected, even inevitable part of womanhood, expressing doubt—or even asking the question “Do I want to be a mum?”—can feel like a dangerous confession. Many women keep their feelings hidden, fearing judgment, misunderstanding, or worse: shame.

Yet behind closed doors and in quiet moments, this question lingers for countless women: Is motherhood what I truly want—or simply what I’ve been told I should want?


Why It’s So Hard to Talk About This


We live in a world that still whispers one story: that “real” women just know they want kids. That longing for motherhood is hardwired, and if it isn’t, something must be wrong.

The truth? Many women feel unsure—and there is nothing wrong with them.

But because the conversation around motherhood doubt is often taboo, women may feel isolated in their uncertainty. They may wonder:

  • Why do I feel so torn when others seem so sure?

  • What if I regret having kids—or not having them?

  • Will people think I’m selfish, broken, or unnatural for even asking this?

These fears are real. And they’re also why we need spaces that make these conversations not just acceptable—but welcome.



Making Space for Your Truth


At Motherhood – Is It For Me?, we believe that questioning motherhood is not a flaw—it’s a sign of deep integrity. Our 12-week guided program is designed to help women explore their ambivalence with care, compassion, and privacy.


This isn’t a decision you should rush—or make based on others’ expectations.


It’s a journey inward. And you don’t have to walk it alone.



If You’re Searching “Is It Normal to Have Doubts About Becoming a Mum?”—The Answer Is Yes.


And more importantly, there’s support for you.

Our book and program create a non-judgmental space for women navigating this deeply personal decision. Whether you’re leaning yes, no, or somewhere in the confusing middle, clarity is possible—when you have the right tools and guidance.




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