Ann Davidman and I have worked with ambivalence: the not knowing if. What if the choice isn't yours. There are women who know but then find the choice isn't theirs, through infertility, life-circumstance or another event that robs them of the path they thought they would take in life. The pain of this is something that needs to be faced (it takes courage) and it deserves healing. It can cry out to be shared. A grief shared is a grief humanized. And every story matters. Thankf

As the first month of this new year draws to a close, I'm remembering and forgetting. Something that happens all the time, but I'm bringing more awareness and focus to it. When I remember I feel better even when I'm sad, angry, confused or overwhelmed. The remembering gives me the opportunity to be aware. To show up and meet my experience. To hold myself in regard and with responsibility. When I forget and I'm feeling any of the above emotions or joyful, I'm robbed of the in-

It's already two weeks into this new year. Have you taken time to reflect? Have you re-connected with what's important to you? Do you know who the people in your life are that nourish you? If you haven't yet done so, take time-out to reflect. Don't put additional pressure on, but rather open up to consider what investing in yourself and those loved ones who help you be the best of who you are will look like at this time. Build or repair the net/web that surrounds you. Look at

A short but sweet post to remind us all that self-care is a necessity, not a luxury. Being busy is the norm in life. Think of self-care as the pearls you string together to keep yourself together. Self-care can be a dedicated cup of tea (without catching up on social media), a quiet few minutes of meditation, reading a poem, enjoying a laugh alone or with a friend, nurturing a potted plant (hands in dirt is very therapeutic), closing eyes for a cat-nap, etc., etc. Endless dis

We recently received feedback from a customer in a review of our book, Motherhood - Is It For Me? Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity, that it takes time that the prospective reader didn't have. This really pushed me into the philosophical sphere of considering time and its nature, a very large sphere indeed. I have empathy for this woman. She could be feeling internal pressure to decide right away. She may have very real reasons why taking 12 weeks to decide if being a mother